BODY LANGUAGE FOR SUCCESS

Body Language: You've probably heard the saying that seventy percent of all communication is portrayed through body language think about it before someone even opens their mouths.

We already start assuming what they're like just from the way they carry themselves. That's why it becomes extremely important to learn exactly how to portray confident attractive and respectable body language.

 We're going to cover everything from your feet to the expressions on your face and we're going to make sure you have a full understanding of why certain types of body language are good and why certain types are bad.

 CLOSE BODY LANGUAGE

So starting with the feet, you should to make sure that your feet are shoulder length apart with your toes pointing outward. why?

Well, the rule of thumb when it comes to body language is that closing off your body is associated with nervousness and fear.

Hypothetically, if someone was about to hit you your instinct would be too close of your body to cover your organs and genitals.

Close body language is Never a good thing to have an impactful conversation.

OPEN BODY LANGUAGE

Open body language, on the other hand, is associated with feeling relaxed, calm, and confident.

So having your feet apart, toes pointing outwards is open while having them together pointing inwards is closed. When you have a confident posture, it puts a positive impression on anyone in front of you.

HANDS SAYS A LOT

Moving onto your hands, do not keep your hands in your pocket, do not cross them, do not have one hand holding the arm of the other hand and if you're at a party do not hold a drink covering your chest.

All of these are forms of closed body language. So what should I be doing with my hands and arms instead?

It's best to keep your hands at your sides relaxed, even if you have a drink. If you're speaking with someone you can use your hands to emphasize certain points.

Keeping your hands in the pocket or crossing them portrays unconfident, insecure, and pessimistic.

CORRECT YOUR CHEST

If you want to ask me to adjust one part of the body that would have the biggest influence on how people perceive you.

It would have to be the chest, this is actually the area that people have problems with the most.

A lot of us have what is called rounded shoulders, shoulders arcs forward pass the neck, largely due to our culture which is increasingly dependent on computer usage.

The ideal way to hold your chest is to have your chest outwards and your shoulders back like in this image here.

for those of you who have a posture problem with the years of computer usage, there are a lot of exercises out there that will help straighten your back and fix your shoulders.

This is something that is a must to present a confident and healthy character.

KEEP YOUR HEAD STRAIGHT

Moving on to the head, you should stand straight with your head in line with the rest of your body.

Your head should be facing forward, you don't want to tilt it down as it seems too submissive, you don't want to tilt it up too much as it seems to arrogance. The face is a large part of how people perceive you during interactions.

80/20 RULE FOR EYE CONTACT

There are two things that you want to focus on the first is eye contact, chances are if you're watching this video you're not making enough eye contact, especially if you're a male strong eye contact is a huge indicator for confidence.

I'm sure you've met people who seemed totally normal but just could not maintain eye contact, this makes the interaction feel very uncomfortable and they come off as very very unconfident.

The magic ratio you should maintain is  80/20. You should spend eighty percent of the time during the conversation making eye contact and twenty percent of the time letting your eyes wander.

This way you seem very confident, very interested in what the other person is saying but at the same time you don't come off as creepy.

A SUBTLE SMILE

The second thing you have to focus on is your smile, do not have one of those giant teeth showing smiles plastered on your face 24-7 because well it actually seemed nervous, these smiles seem forced and fake.

Instead, it's best to have a subtle grin like you're having a good day. This projects an aura of happiness but seems genuine and not forced.

Now don't get me wrong it's perfectly okay to smile with the teeth but save it for those special occasions.

Now that we've covered what good body language looks like. let's talk about how you should move your body.

The rule of thumb when it comes to movement is slow… slow… slow. The slower you move the more confident you seem.

WALK SLOW WITH CONFIDENCE

A lot of us are prone to fast fidgety movement, you know we like to touch our face or play our hands and this just screams "I’m nervous", it makes you look like you're on the edge all of the time.

The reason we want to stray away from nervous behavior so much is that emotions get transferred if you're nervous the people you're interacting with will feel uncomfortable as well they feel as if something is wrong and this hinders your overall likability.

Well, how slow should we move...? Honestly, you can move pretty slow without it looking weird just don't move too slow like you're in the matrix.

TAKE YOUR SPACE

The last concept we're going to talk about is space, this relates a lot for the open and close body language concept that we spoke about earlier.

The more space you take up the more comfortable and confident you seem.

When you a desk spread your belongings don't be afraid to have some space between your phone and your notebook but don't be that guy who takes up three feet with his book bag and jacket.

When you're sitting don't be afraid to sit with your legs apart, drape your arms on the chair next to you if it's empty, do not be afraid to open up your body and that's it.

If you want to be perceived as more confident look more attractive and gain more respect you just have to keep in mind these concepts.

Stay away from close body language, moves slower, take up more space and increase the amount of eye contact you make.

 CONCLUSION

By making these changes, I can a hundred percent guarantee you'll see an improvement in your social interactions whether beyond think during meetings, at parties, or even just hanging out with your friends.

Body language can make you win the game without even playing it. so before preparing for the interview, exam, or any competition, work on your body language and boost your confidence.

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